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Sunday, April 18, 2010

"Gilding or Re-building" the Lily?

How lovely these Amaryllis are, proudly holding up their heads. They are like young women, adorned with colorful garments.
I love being the age I am; I do not like the aging part. These days I am spending more time "gilding" the lily. Just holding those wilting "petals" up requires a good diet with supplements, enough sleep (this is often lacking!), lots of exercise, investing in some good skin-care products, and lastly, make-up.
I was very fortunate in my youth, as I had good skin. I tried makeup, however, it just melted off in the Florida heat. So, I rarely used any powder or liquid makeup. I think that alone was an important factor in the clarity of my skin.
Now, past mid-fifty, I am applying makeup more and more often. The complexion seems a bit blotchy no matter what I do. Also, since I wear a mask when I work, this doesn't help. Masks create heat and, yes, I am always sweating!
Reconciling oneself to their aging profile is not easy. These things do happen slowly, and that helps. But, self-esteem is sometimes compromised, as we feel good when we know we look good. Maybe I have to give up magnifying mirrors? They are so NOT our friends!
I guess the face-lift and/or other surgery (AKA "re-building the lily") is a possibility. I think I am too much of a coward to go through with that; knives scare me! Furthermore, I'm not sure I can afford these procedures. Perhaps a laser peel? Hmmmm.
Unfortunately, society is not kind to the aging woman. Men are allowed to age "gracefully", their graying hair is "sexy"etc, etc. Women are reduced to hags. It's the American way, and it is a crock!
Let's band together and give each other the support we need to just love our aging selves. We are beautiful, through and through--we should know this!
Here is a poem from the upcoming book, which I tentatively renamed Embracing Your Inner Hippie! Have an outstanding week!

Fountain of Spoof

First come the little
"Smile" lines by the eyes
After a while, lines deepen
And are followed by brow-furrows
Complemented with "marionette" lines
On each side of the mouth
[I swear that is what those "in the know"
Are calling them!]

Our first defense consists of lotions
And creams that we literally slather
On our skin; most of these products
Don't do much, or live up to our expectations
I personally will attest to this
Still, I continue to try the latest and greatest
(Within budget) hoping for a mini-miracle or
At least some hint of positive progress

I guess I'll settle for maintenance
i.e try to stay where I'm at
Rather than trying to reverse the
Hands of time on the "wrinkle clock"
We certainly need to smile more
Nothing looks better on us!
Let's work on keeping our chins up
Even if we have to pull 'em up and tie them there!

Sunday, April 11, 2010

SOLITUDE AND THE ELUSIVE "NOW"

Love that Magnolia girl!

Good morrow to you all! It is a gloomy, breezy day here. Still, it is green, lush, and lovely! If only the pollen would quit--achoo!
I have finally gotten to my quiet moment. The washing machine has quit; I decided to wait to run the dryer. The dog is sleeping, the spouse is out. It is so calming to hear nothing!
I don't know how we do it? Day out, day in, we have some much noise and distraction. It is no wonder we are running around stressed to the max. We need to tune out the noise and tune in to nature.
I had some moments of "now" this week. I had to force them on myself; then was glad that I had. I will continue to subdue myself on a regular basis--it is for my own good!
I have a quote on my calendar "Peace is a quiet mind", no author noted. That hits home for me. An author I have quoted before, Sue Patton Thoele, writes from her book, Growing Hope, "being still allows the murky waters of our minds to clear and invites the light of heart and soul to shine on and from our inner and outer lives."
Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power Of Now, tells us that "Presence is needed to become aware of the beauty, the majesty, the sacredness of nature." Additionally, a quote by Virginia Woolf says that "In solitude we give passionate attention to our lives, to our memories, to the details around us". Finally, Anne Morrow Lindbergh writes, "There is a quality to being alone that is incredibly precious. Life rushes back into the void, richer, more vivid, fuller than before."
This is great "food for thought", and good inspiration for my addled ADD brain. Here is a poem from my book, Water Running Downhill. Have a wonderful week with moments of solitude!

Joan

COCOON

Creating calm
In your life
Is as essential
To your existence
As oxygen

We have become
Hurried, harried
Hustling husks
We have forgotten
To breathe

Nullify the noise of
Modern Life
Shipwreck yourself
On your island Aerie
Nurture your native side

Unplug the phone
Cut off your cell
Become incommunicado
Turn off the tube
Acquiesce to quiet

Bask as bird song
Blends with the
Beating of your heart
Knowingly choose to be
A universe of one

Then, gratified and grounded
Will your authentic
Sated-self slip
Into your cocoon
Of silence